Rebuilding Trust: A Survivor’s Path to Healthier Relationships
March 30, 2021
A survivor reached out about ways they may be able to heal lingering trust issues in relationships. Their main concern centers on figuring out how to form new connections without allowing past betrayals or trauma to overshadow the present. This is such a crucial question because trust is at the core of meaningful bonds with friends, family, and partners. Recognizing how difficult it can be to speak about past injuries, we commend them for bravely raising this topic. Through their question, they may be exploring whether careful vulnerability can pave the way for healthier interactions and deeper understanding.
Our answer begins with the acknowledgment that relationships are complex, and they can shape us in positive or harmful ways. Healing from trauma requires honoring one’s feelings and moving at a comfortable pace, while letting others earn trust through their actions. We suggest paying close attention to whether people exhibit untrustworthy patterns, seeking an objective viewpoint from a trusted friend if needed, and openly communicating needs to a new partner. If they’re supportive and respectful, this can help build confidence and reassurance. We also emphasize that although another person can’t single-handedly fix past wounds, they can provide valuable encouragement along the way.
We admire the strength embodied by survivors who are working through the sensitive process of rebuilding trust. In addition to speaking with a compassionate support system and considering professional guidance from a therapist or counselor, online hotlines and crisis centers can also provide immediate help. Be open to the truth that you deserve relationships that are healthy, uplifting, and reflective of your worth. We hope this perspective provides both comfort and direction.
