As a global platform for healing and self-expression, Our Wave is deeply committed to supporting survivors of sexual harm and creating brave spaces for self-reflection, connection, and learning. At the same time, we draw lines around a few narrowly defined but deeply important categories of content and behavior that jeopardize survivor wellbeing, threaten our infrastructure, and damage our healing community.
There is no such thing as a “safe space” —
We exist in the real world.
We all carry scars and have caused wounds.
This space
seeks to turn down the volume of the world outside,
and amplify voices that have to fight to be heard elsewhere,
This space will not be perfect.
It will not always be what we wish it to be
But
It will be our space together,
and we will work on it side by side.
— “Untitled Poem” by Beth Strano
What Our Wave Is For
Our Wave celebrates sexual harm survivorship in all forms. We want you to express yourself freely and use Our Wave to reflect on your experiences, connect with other survivors, and think deeply about what healing means to you. We also want you to be mindful and respectful of differences in survivor experiences and variations in the healing journey.
What Our Wave Is Not For
- Hate Speech. We do not tolerate content that actively blames survivors or encourages violence or hatred. Do not post content for the purpose inciting the hatred or dehumanization of individuals or groups based on race, ethnic or national origin, religion, gender, gender identity, age, veteran status, sexual orientation, disability or disease.
- Harm to Minors. While sexual harm occurs across the lifespan, for legal reasons, this platform is only to be used by individuals 18 years or older. While you may reflect on experiences you had when you were a minor, please only do so on our platform if you are over the age of 18. For more information, see our Terms of Service.
- Promotion or Glorification of Self-Harm. While self-harm most certainly can co-occur with an individual’s survivorship experience, do not post content that actively promotes or glorifies self-harm. This includes content that urges or encourages others to: cut or injure themselves; embrace anorexia, bulimia, or other eating disorders; or attempt suicide rather than e.g., seeking counseling or treatment, or joining together in supportive conversation with those suffering or recovering from mental health conditions. Dialogue about these behaviors is incredibly important and online communities can be extraordinarily helpful to people struggling. If you do mention self-harm in your story, a content warning will be used to protect the safety of all survivors engaging with the platform.
- Adult Content. While we give you the ability to upload visual media including artwork, illustrations, and images, be sure you are respecting the healing community we are trying to create by not featuring adult content in these images. Do not upload images that show real-life human genitals or depict sex acts. Certain types of artistic, educational, or political content featuring nudity are fine. The Our Wave team reserves the right to make posting decisions on all media uploaded to the platform.
- Harassment. Do not engage in targeted abuse, bullying, or harassment. Do not engage in the unwanted sexualization or sexual harassment of others. We have a zero tolerance policy for this.
- Violent Content and Threats, Gore and Mutilation. While this platform discusses violence, we do not condone threats, gore, or mutilation. Do not post content which includes violent threats toward individuals or groups. This includes threats of theft, property damage, or financial harm. Do not post violent content or gore just to be shocking. Do not showcase the mutilation or torture of human beings, animals (including bestiality), or their remains. Do not post content that encourages or incites violence, or glorifies acts of violence or their perpetrators.
- Stories That are Not Related to Trauma or Abuse. The goal of Our Wave is to intentionally create a community for survivors of sexual harm. We are aware that many types of trauma and abuse can overlap with and be related to sexual trauma. Those stories are okay to post on the platform. We are also aware that not all stories related to survivorship have to do with the details of the harm experienced. Please do not feel that you need to disclose any details you are uncomfortable sharing. Stories that explicitly are not related to trauma or violence survivorship in any way, however, should be posted elsewhere.
- Self-promotion. To protect your privacy and confidentiality, Our Wave is an anonymous platform. This means that any information in story or media submissions that can be identifiable will be redacted before being posted to the platform. Unfortunately, this means that we are unable to link stories to personal blogs, social media pages, books you have authored, or other related initiatives. Stories with the central idea of promoting things you are working on (whether or not they are related to sexual harm survivorship) should be posted elsewhere. That being said, if you are doing something cool in this space and would like to partner with us, reach out to [email protected] or see our partner frequently asked questions. We would love to hear from you!
- Misattribution or Non-Attribution. If you are posting the artwork or illustrations of others, make sure you always give proper credit or attribution. We’ve included a space for media uploads where you can include the artist’s name, social media handle, etc. This is important, as we want to credit the hard work artists put in to create the art that inspires us.
If we conclude that you are violating these guidelines, your story will not be posted on the Our Wave platform. We do our best to ensure fair outcomes, but in all cases we reserve the right to not post or remove content, for any reason, but particularly to protect survivors and the community we are trying to create. We reserve the right to enforce, or not enforce, these guidelines in our sole discretion, and these guidelines don't create a duty or contractual obligation for us to act in any particular manner. Repeat violations of our Community Guidelines may result in permanent suspension.
You can report violations of these guidelines to us directly by emailing [email protected]. You can remove your own content whenever you want, of course, by using the link provided to you in your story posting notification email, or by requesting secure access to your story here. If you have any questions or feedback, don’t hesitate to contact us using the email provided above.
Thank you for reading all of this and for being interested in joining the Our Wave community. Welcome! We are so happy you are here. Your story matters and healing is possible.
Updated August 3, 2021
